The Heroes and Villains of Influence

How do human beings make decisions? By choosing the quickest path to pleasure or away from pain. In the art of influence, this is valuable intel. You can better lead people when you understand their underlying motives. People are motivated by many different kinds of pain and pleasure. That's why influential people keep track of their target’s observable triggers - what they want to move away from and move towards. So, today, I’d like to delve into one of the lesser-discussed pain/pleasure triggers. Using this technique can swiftly shift your target’s perspective. I’ve [...]

5 Conversation Tips for More Influence

Conversations. They can lead to powerful moments of realization and revelation. Conversations are how we, as a species, connect, learn, and grow with each other. And…conversations can be a huge source of stress, anxiety, and missed opportunities. One of the worst moments in any conversation is that terrible awkward silence. Not knowing what to say next can make you panic and worry whether or not you're making a good impression.  So, today, l'm sharing a few tips that will help you keep that conversational flow going, always.  Tip #1: Visualize Then Clarify Your [...]

How to Be Influential Without Words

Did you know you can be influential without even speaking? Sometimes your most influential decisions have nothing to do with what you’re saying. Yes, words are an important factor of influence, but sometimes you’ll want to turn your focus from the message and direct it to the messenger. If you want to really step-up your influence game, then now is the time to start paying attention to your state. Let’s start by defining state, then we'll talk about the different circumstances in which your state can enhance your influential conversations. What [...]

2 Steps to Letting Go of What Other People Think

All my life, I’ve had this fear in the back of my mind. I’ve struggled with it, made my peace with it, and then looped back to wrestling with it once again. I don’t know if I’m normal or if I’m different, but I’ve always been afraid of people knowing this about me. So, of course, the rational thing to do is to post a blog about it on the internet where it will remain forever. Brilliant. And so, I’m about to reveal a potentially embarrassing fact about myself because I believe that [...]